TW: RAPE, ABUSE, SUICIDE
This is Michael Doughty. On Tumblr, he goes by fibrodeathmatch (formerly quiltingqueer, if he changes his url again I’ll update this post). In meatspace, he is currently living in Auburn, Washington.
Mike is a serial abuser and a rapist. In the past year, he has emotionally abused five people, two of which he also raped, and at least one of which (myself) he physically assaulted. He has also sent predatory and inappropriate Tumblr messages to at least one person. His primary targets seem to be women, trans men, and nonbinary people, particularly those who are already abuse or rape survivors. He uses extreme emotional manipulation to get what he wants, including using suicide threats to coerce his victims into sex or other things. He also uses people’s mental illnesses against them in order to gaslight them or outright lie to them (for example, using my dissociation to convince me that I had been the aggressor in a confrontation. I later found out from someone else that this was not the case).
Please note that all this is within a YEAR, we have reason to believe that this pattern has been persistent for a while.
Mike is a white man, about 5’8” and 150lbs. He has very short dark hair and wears glasses. He is involved in both the queer community and the service dog community.
If you or someone you know lives in the Auburn/Fed Way area, please let them know about this person so that they can protect themselves.
Mike sexually assaulted me, silenced me when i tried to speak out, misgendered me for months, and constantly invalidated my trans* identity. he also emotionally and psychologically manipulated me for months on end. he denies everything and refuses to be accountable and thus, should come with a warning label…this post is that warning label.
Hey, if any of you guys are planning on bringing a case against him, right here he refers to himself as a rapist. Feel free to pass it on to the police <3
like i said, i’m putting latfc and associated projects on a back burner while i try to clean up my own life/health - not necessarily going on hiatus but dialing back how much i engage in stressful online stuff on top of stressful offline stuff - but i intend to leave messages and anonymous messages on. the only reason for this is that a lot of people do come to me with legitimate questions, and it’s important to me to put the visibility i have with latfc towards making support accessible for other trans people however i can (and hopefully towards sharing useful rhetorical tools for talking about transphobia + cissexism? i don’t know how successful i’ve been in that regard but i know that, for me, it’s helpful and validating to see other people tackle fucked up stuff that i wasn’t previously able to articulate my beef with)
unfortunately, leaving that channel of communication open means that i am still getting hatemail and some really weird sexual harassment
i’m not unused to that or surprised by it but i want to be very clear to the people doing this that at this point, all you’re doing is trying to bully a resource by and for trans people out of existence. that’s literally it. all i’m doing now and have been doing for a while is responding to questions and the fact that you STILL see fit to tell me that i’m being counterproductive while claiming to support trans people is incredible
this is it. this is the pinnacle. it’s all downhill from here
i think i need to throw in the towel on running trans swap. the short of it is that my current mental health is way too rocky to shoulder the responsibility of running a project like this in good conscience, and that coupled with stressful life stuff and an additionally stressful internet presence (big shoutout to the hordes of cis people who persist in writing in to tell me i suck and should get off the internet even when i’ve been avoiding conflict for weeks, xoxo) is making me feel increasingly like i need to step away from tumblr and associated projects for a while.
there are a few people who i’ve kind of left hanging in the past couple weeks wrt pending swaps, and i’m sorry for that. i’ll try to resolve those as fast as possible - there are probably five, six in the works right now? if i’ve already contacted you, i’ll get back to you. if i haven’t, there’s a chance you might be one of the people i’m still looking at setting up with stuff, but most likely i’m not going to be able to help. it’s really hard for me to say that, and i wish it weren’t the case. if you’re in a really rough patch, the offer still stands to hit me up here or on lookatthisfuckingcisgender, and i will see if i can find any resources that might be helpful, but i just can’t make trans swap work right now.
that said, i’m really proud of everyone who participated, in every capacity. you’re a good bunch, and i am so happy that i could help facilitate things for the time this project lasted.
if anyone is interested in taking trans swap over, either in concept or directly where i left off, i’d be thrilled. obviously i’m not just about to hand over the personal information confided in me to strangers, and running things is a huge responsibility, but if you seriously believe you’d be able to administrate a project like this then i would definitely encourage you to get in touch with me. i think there’s a lot more to be done here and i would be incredibly happy to see someone else do it justice.
thank you all so much for your patience, participation, and (hopefully) understanding. i’m sorry to have to leave things here, and i hope what we did accomplish was helpful in whatever small way.
yes, i am literally a troll, i live under a fucking bridge in a pile of cis people’s bones and my own filth
one time when i was co-running a gsa in high school a dude complained that we didn’t spend enough time talking about “straight people problems” and that it made him feel unsafe and we laughed at him until he left the room and never came back
i am still getting feedback on this god damn fruit metaphor. all cis people are thieves and should go to gay apple jail
someone choosing to wear revealing clothes is not “exploiting” their body? people can wear whatever clothes they like/are comfortable with? trans people have to use the wrong washrooms all the time for reasons of necessity? what on earth?
edit: also somehow i missed the bit where you referred to a trans dude’s body as a “woman’s body”, that’s great, excellent, thank you
i literally can’t tell if this is satire